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How to have a Happy and Healthy Relationship during the Pandemic

The Covid-19 pandemic has placed intense pressure on everyone since it first began more than a year ago. The way we work, live, play and manage relationships has undergone a dramatic change everywhere in the world, including Singapore.

The stress-releasing coping methods that we are so used to relying on are stripped away from us such as enjoying our favorite food at restaurants or hawker centers, sweating it out in the gym or yoga studio, or simply just hanging out with our friends. With everyone being so tensed and stressed out, it is no wonder that we begin to see cracks start surfacing in our relationships and the imperfections in our partners appear amplified!

In times like this, it is important to adopt a positive mindset to face the unique challenges that presents us during the pandemic head-on and make sure we protect the relationships that are so important to us with these five tips!

1. Be vulnerable and open

One of the first responses that we turn to is to ice out or cut-off our partners when we feel indignant or aggrieved by our partners. It is even easier to do so when both of you have fewer opportunities to meet and connect. This defence mechanism can be more harmful to a relationship than arguing because when you stop communicating, you begin to build emotional distance and that can lead both of you to become estranged from each other. Keep your communication channels open, stop building walls and start sharing the vulnerable side of you to your partner. Trust him or her to be there with you to work things out during this difficult period.

2. Managing conflicts the smart way

You may not like the arguments, but it is a necessary step to resolving conflicts inherent in relationships. It is naïve to think that we can avoid disagreements just by changing our partners!

Schedule regular weekly discussion sessions so that both of you are prepared to have difficult conversations, but spend the rest of the time focusing on enjoying each other’s company. If you have been having the same arguments frequently, call it a truce first and revisit the issue when emotions are tempered.

It is important to reduce your expectations right now because everyone is having a hard time, and it is unrealistic to expect your partner to meet all your needs all the time.

You may even want to take note that your loved one might be experiencing difficulty adjusting to life in the “new normal”. Seek help from therapists or medical professionals promptly and remember that it will take more resources to support each other, so make sure to protect your well-being by setting healthy boundaries with your partner even if it is difficult to do so.