It is understandable to get the jitters before a date, because it is natural for all of us to not want to fail in attracting the one you fancy. However, it can be very difficult for you to be at your best if you are thinking of each and every way your date may fail. We all hope to calm ourselves down before a date, but we often find that it is still difficult to do so. Fret not, here are 5 ways to calm your nerves before a date;
1) Be Confident About Yourself!
Look yourself in the mirror and start telling yourself all the good things about you, why you would be the Right date to be with. Things like, “I am a funny guy, she is going to love the jokes I have prepared.”, and “I am well-dressed today, done up my hair better than usual”, will make you believe in yourself and all the preparations that you have made for the date will be optimal.
2) Dress Up to Look Amazing
Dress up for your date so as to achieve the best first impression your date has of you. For the Ladies, look splendid with just the right amount of make-up and a matching outfit to go with your theme for the date. For the Men, just gel up your hair and make yourself look stylish by matching your outfit of the day with your hairdo. Pair your look with an upbeat mood and confidence, and you will be able to impress with not just your looks, but with your confident personality as well!
3) Deep Breaths… Deep Breaths
When you are nervous for your date, you usually feel uneasy in your chest. You can get rid of it by taking deep breaths and telling yourself that no matter what results you achieve at the end of the date, you are doing your best. You have to know that the FACT is you can never be in total control of your date, there are just certain factors would sometimes go beyond our expectations. Focus on what you can control, and don’t spend your energy focusing on what you are not able to.
4) Find A Way to Distract Yourself
This is a very important step, as distracting yourself often helps you to regain mental energy that you might have lost with all those worrying. Watch a funny YouTube video, or go on Spotify to play your favorite beats, whatever you like to do during your free time, dedicate some time before your date to relax your mind, after all, a tired mind will make you feel very lethargic, and that is definitely what you should not be portraying during a date.
5) Give Yourself Room to Improve
All humans make mistakes, however the attitude we have to perceive the outcomes and follow-ups of our mistakes matters, even before a date. You will find that you will feel less anxious before a date if you allow yourself room for mistakes during a date. Prepare to ask yourself after an unsuccessful date, what ways can you improve yourself for your next date. That way, you will be ready for mistakes, and not be too afraid to make them, allowing yourself to keep calm before a date much easier.
The world of dating is a very complicated one, with many things that could happen, be it good or bad.
What is the most important takeaway from this article? Be sufficiently prepared for a date, be prepared to make mistakes and learn from them. Most importantly, have confidence in yourself and have a great time on your date! 😘